For many people, the holidays come with connection, celebration, and time with loved ones. For others, they can bring tension, emotional strain, and difficult family dynamics. Whether you’re spending time with family, or navigating complicated relationships from a distance, this season can be especially challenging if you have a history of addiction. These moments are common points of vulnerability. That’s why having a holiday relapse prevention plan can make a meaningful difference.
Why the Holidays Can Be Difficult
Are you dreading getting ready to see family for the holidays? You’re not alone. Many people struggle with navigating different personalities, expectations, unresolved conflicts, and emotional demands during this time of year.
While a certain level of frustration is completely normal, if you have a history of addiction, it’s important to view these situations as signals rather than failures. They can offer insight into where extra care, boundaries, or support may be needed.
Practice Discernment, Not Self-Criticism
During family gatherings, you may receive feedback, comments, or judgments, some of which may feel unfair or misplaced. Others, however, may touch on something worth reflecting on.
Practicing discernment means:
- Noticing what truly doesn’t apply and letting it go
- Gently considering whether any feedback may be useful
- Reflecting privately, without feeling pressured to explain yourself or engage in long conversations
For example, if someone mentions that you seem withdrawn or not quite yourself, take a quiet moment to reflect. Is there any truth there? If so, it may simply be information to hold, not something you need to act on immediately.
Boundaries, Space, and Self-Protection
One of the most important skills during the holidays is knowing when to create space.
If conversations become tense or overwhelming:
- Step into another room
- Go for a short walk
- Take a break from the environment altogether, if possible
There’s no need to stay in situations that increase emotional pressure. Giving yourself space isn’t avoidance, it’s a form of self-care and prevention.
When Connection Is Possible
If a relationship feels safe and the timing is right, the holidays can also open the door to honest conversations, vulnerability, and renewed closeness. These moments don’t have to be forced, but they can be meaningful when they arise naturally.
At the very least, use what comes up during the holidays as information, insight into what may need attention, support, or care as you move into the new year.
Holiday Relapse Prevention Plan Template
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How the Holiday Relapse Prevention Plan Helps You
Plan Ahead
Identify high-risk situations, establish supportive routines, and ensure you have people or resources you can rely on.
Recognize Triggers
Learn to notice the thoughts, emotions, and environments that increase vulnerability, early enough to respond with care.
Take Action
Use practical, step-by-step strategies to support yourself before, during, and after difficult moments.
A Final Reminder for Holidays
If something feels overwhelming, you’re allowed to step away. You don’t have to stay in emotionally intense situations or push through discomfort at your own expense.
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